Monthly Archives: April 2010

Weaning, Take 4

S’s mom asked me to write about how I deal with tantrums and pre-tantrum behavior.

Mmm.  Not so well.

Actually, what this post is really about is the fact that in T-minus a few days, we will be weaning Trucker from the bottle.  This was the hardest thing we had to do with Cakie.  Everything else —  reading, potty training, weaning from the breast, everything — was easy with him.  But the bottle weaning was rough.

Sooooo… we decided, since the daycare ladies have actually stopped giving him bottles, and we have pretended to them that we have stopped giving him bottles, that we actually will once we run out of this last box of evil drop-in bottle liners. Cake we bottle weaned at 15 months.  Trucker is just shy of two years old.  We’ve just been — uh — busy.  Or maybe avoiding it.  The doctor said it should be done around 15 months both as a precaution for teeth and as a step away from babyhood.  What do you guys think?

I’m mushing two posts together, really.  I do expect bottle-incited tantrums.  Which is why I’ll now address mer’s question about how we handle tantrums.  We consider tantrums to be a point at which the baby has lost all sense of control.  So our strategy is to let them work it out.  We’ve learned that if we pay the tantrum any mind, we are feeding the beast. This works best at home.  The middle of the aisle at Target, for example, is a bit more trying.  But basically, we say to the screaming, kicking baby,  “Wow.  You are really upset.  Mommy’s going to go over here and (polish the silver, read this magazine, write a poem, heat up some broccolli) while you work it out.  I’ll be right here.  Love you.”  Then we give the kid some space, we let them know that we care, but pretty much ignore the tantrum until the baby runs out of steam.  Even though he may not understand me, I try to explain to the baby that this is not a means to an end.  “I understand that you are very upset, but you still have to get in the stroller because mommy’s going to wet her pants if we don’t get home.”  I do pick my battles.  But I try not to give in to tantrums because I fear that they will happen more often if the baby gets his way as a result of them.  But I also understand that the world is huge to the baby.  The thing he wants is the most important thing in the universe to him in that moment.  So I kind of understand the urge to kick and scream.  Sometimes I wish I could do the same.  I don’t know if this is helpful or not.  I hope so.

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Busy Writing Poems Soooo….

I feel a little neglectful of my bloggy homestead, so I’m going to do a meme.  Anyone can join in, but I may also tag some folks.  This is from Calliope.

I’ll post my answers in the comments and you can do the same OR use this to propel you to the land of clicking “publish” on your blog dashboard. Just let me know if you did so I can dust the cobwebs from your url and hug you.

You.
Can.
Only.
Type.
One.
Word.

No.
Explanations.

Not as easy as you might think…

1. Yourself: me

2 Your girlfriend/boyfriend: her

3. Your hair: red

4. Your mother/stepmother: phoenix

5. Your dog: stuffed

6. Your favorite item: words

7. Your dream last night: forgotten

8. Your favorite drink: hefeweizen

9. Your dream car: outback

10. The room you are in: diningnook

12. Your fear: loss

13. What you want to be in 10 years: published

14. Who you hung out with last night: boychicks

15. What you’re not: rich

16. Muffin: corn

17: One of your wish list items: house

18: Time: precious

19. The last thing you did: poem

20. What you are wearing: yogafit

21. Your favorite weather: bright

22. Your favorite book: dogeared

23. The last thing you ate: chili

24. Your life: glorious

25. Your mood: meh

26. Your best friend(S): energy

27. What are you thinking about right now? poems

28. Your car: old

29. What are you doing at the moment?: reflecting

30. Your summer: off!

31. Your relationship status: engaged?

32. What is on your TV?: nothing

33. What is the weather like?: chilly

34. When is the last time you laughed?:  poem

Assuming I can put a link in a one-word answer!  🙂  Hmmm.  I tag ohchicken, reproducing genius, and familyo.  I always tag the same people.  I don’t know why.

XOXO,

ohm

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TRUKKEN*

*TRUKKEN — When one goes Truckin’ at Ikea.  (Note the awesome assembly of excavators on the other side of the parking lot.  Toddler heaven.)

This blog is turning into a place for me to post pictures of my toddler looking at trucks.  Fascinating, right?

Well, if you can think of something helpful I could write, let me know.  My “How-to” posts seem to get the most play.  I love to be helpful, though I’m not much of an expert at anything except posting pictures of my toddler looking at trucks.

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